The holidays can be so hard as you are dealing with loss. We want to share four tips with you in preparation for the holidays:
- Make a plan! Decide what you want to commit to and what you don’t. Don’t’ overdo it but do what YOU feel comfortable with. If you commit to holiday parties, have an “out” word or code word with your partner that means either, “I need to get the heck out of here” or “let’s step away and check in with each other”. Give each other the grace to take it as slow or fast as you need.
- Be kind to your physical body and don’t overindulge. Our bodies are already taking a physical toll because of the grief we are already going through, and the last thing that we want is to overdo it with either food for drink.
- Have grace for yourself. Realize that you aren’t the same person you were before the loss, so don’t have the same expectations on yourself. Allow yourself to go at your own pace.
People are not going to communicate perfectly. They will same things that might seem insensitive to what you’re going through, but know that they don’t mean to hurt you by it.
- When you are down about what you’ve “lost” and don’t have, write down things that you do have. Make a gratitude list of things that you are thankful for and shift your mind set.
Know we are praying for you in this difficult season, and we pray that God will meet you in a special place and draw near to you during the holidays.